Passing off challenges at home
Some Life Skills challenges can be passed off from home. When you’re the one watching, you hold the same bar a guide would: the exact “I can” sentence, nothing less. Here’s what counts, how to record it, and how to send it.
Your two jobs: coach first, then judge
Wilderland runs on high standards and high support. At home, you give both, at different moments.
Before the attempt: coach
- Read the challenge together, including How to do it and Where to learn.
- Help your child make a practice plan, and help them keep it.
- Practice with them. Notice the effort. Let them fail and try again.
- Help find the gear, the place or the people the challenge needs.
During the attempt: judge
- Read the “I can” sentence out loud together right before the attempt.
- Watch. No reminders, hints, help or coaching while it counts.
- Judge it against the sentence, word for word. No partial credit and no “close enough.”
- If it isn’t there yet, say so, and name exactly what was missing. Your child can try again any day.
Why so strict? A pass from home earns the same credit as a pass at school, and every student’s pass is measured against the same sentence. As a parent, you’re naturally the kindest judge there is, because you saw how hard your child tried. Holding the line is what keeps a pass something your child can be proud of.
What can be passed off at home
Every challenge says how it’s checked. On the challenge map, look for the Can do at home tag, or turn on that filter. Home pass-offs come in four kinds, and each challenge page tells you which one it uses.
Video
For skills your child can show on demand, like a timed run, a knot, a recipe or a talk. Film it, or your child can show their guide at school instead.
Video rulesParent log
For habits that take days or weeks, like a bedtime routine, a 30-day challenge or a savings ledger. Write each entry the same day.
Log rulesWitness note
For real moments you happen to see, like your child ordering food with no adult speaking for them, or fixing a problem on a long hike.
Witness note rulesTurnaround check
For habit Epics that fix a real problem. You confirm the problem before your child starts, and what changed at the end.
Turnaround checksEverything else is checked at school. See what needs a guide.
Video rules
- One continuous take. No cuts, edits, speed changes or filters.
- Filmed in the last 7 days.
- Start with the basics. Your child says their name, the date and the challenge number, like “EN-04.3.”
- Show the whole attempt, start to finish, with everything the sentence measures in the shot: the distance, the knot, the finished dish.
- Timed challenges need a visible clock. Keep a stopwatch or timer in the shot the whole time.
- No help during the take. If you need to step in for safety, stop. That attempt is a not yet, and you can film again another day.
- Film only your own child. If the challenge involves other people, ask them first. Never film other children without their parent’s OK; write a witness note instead.
A video can’t stand in for a guide on Safety Gates, on tests where the guide holds the answer key (like naming birds or plants in the field), or on anything that needs an audience at school.
Log and witness note rules
Logs and witness notes are for what a camera can’t catch: a habit over weeks, or a moment out in the world. They only work if they’re written like a referee’s notes.
- Agree on what counts before day one. Read the sentence together. If it says “zero reminders,” a day with one reminder doesn’t count.
- Write each entry the same day, with the date. Never fill in days later from memory.
- Write what you saw, with specifics: times, numbers, and what your child did and said.
- Count only what you saw yourself, or what evidence shows: dated photos, a timer screenshot, the finished work.
- No rounding up. If the sentence says 5 nights in a row and the streak breaks at 4, it starts over, unless the challenge allows misses.
- Your child keeps their own record too. Your initials confirm it. They don’t replace your child’s work.
- Sign the end: “I saw this myself. Every entry was written the same day. I didn’t count anything I didn’t see.”
Paper or a notes app both work, as long as each entry is dated the day it happened. Print a log sheet.
Turnaround checks
Turnaround Epics are habit Epics, like a bedtime routine or a new job at home. They’re worth 2 credits only when they fix a real problem or build something new for your child, so they start and end with you.
- Before your child starts, keep a week of “before” evidence: what happens now, how often, and how many reminders it takes. If it isn’t a real problem, or your child can already do it, help them pick a different Epic.
- During the Epic, your child runs it and keeps the log. Stay out of the driver’s seat: no nagging, and no running it for them.
- At the end, confirm what changed, with the same kind of evidence as the “before” week.
- Send both checks to your child’s Field Guide, who reviews them with your child.
How to send it
For now, email your child’s Field Guide at their school email address, one challenge per email. Every challenge page has a Copy email for the Field Guide button that fills in the challenge number and sentence for you. It looks like this:
Subject: Home pass-off: [child’s first name and last initial], EN-04.3 Challenge EN-04.3 (grades 5–8): “I can do my first full pull-up: from a dead hang, chin over the bar, no kicking.” Date filmed: Video link: I read the “I can” sentence with my child before the attempt. I saw this myself, I didn’t help during it, and I didn’t count anything I didn’t see. Parent name:
- Videos: phone videos are usually too big to attach, and that’s fine. Gmail sends large files as a Google Drive link, and iPhone Mail offers Mail Drop. Mail Drop links expire after 30 days, so send soon after filming. A share link from Google Photos, Google Drive or iCloud works too, as long as the guide can open it.
- Logs and notes: attach a photo of each page. Your child brings the paper log to school and explains it to their guide.
We may move home pass-offs into Basecamp later in the year. We’ll tell you if anything changes.
What happens next
- Within a week, your child’s guide replies: pass, or not yet with what was missing and how to practice.
- Your child talks it through with their guide. They should be able to explain what they did and how they got there.
- About 1 in 10 home passes get a friendly re-check at school, where your child shows it again. If it doesn’t hold up, it becomes a not yet. That isn’t an accusation. It keeps every credit worth the same.
- On a pass, the guide records it and your child marks the wall chart at school.
- Videos are only for checking the pass. Guides don’t share or post them, and delete them after recording the result.
Using AI at home
Every challenge has 3 prompts your child can copy into an AI: one to make a plan, one to practice, and one to check they’re ready. The prompts tell the AI to coach. It asks questions first, gives hints before answers, and checks the work against the exact sentence. It doesn’t do the challenge for them.
- Use the AI account your child’s guide sets up. If you use your own at home, check its age rules first: ChatGPT isn’t meant for children under 13 and needs a parent’s consent from 13 to 18, and Claude is for adults 18 and over.
- Stay nearby, especially with younger kids, and read the conversation now and then.
- No personal details: no full name, address, school or photos of people.
- AI can be wrong. Anything about safety, like fire, tools, water, weather or wild plants, gets checked with a guide.
- The work is your child’s. AI can give tips on a draft, but it can’t write any part of what gets handed in. The pass is still shown to a guide, or to you, in person.
What needs a guide
Shown to a guide
Most other challenges. Your child shows their guide in person any day they’re ready, or in the lightning test at the end of a Lab. You can help them practice at home.
Proof from outside school
A customer, judge, instructor or certificate confirms it. Help your child find the place to do it and collect the proof. They bring it to their guide.
Safety Gates
Fire, knives, tools, deep water and the backcountry. Always a guide or certified instructor, never a parent, because these unlock activities where someone could get hurt.
Kindergarten and 1st grade
Every K–1 challenge is led by a guide with the whole crew at school.
Questions
My child almost did it. Can it count?
No. Almost is a not yet. Tell your child exactly what was missing, and try again another day. There’s no limit on retries.
Can I remind or help during the attempt?
Not during a counted attempt or a counted day. Coaching happens before and between attempts. If the sentence says “on my own” or “no reminders,” any help means that one doesn’t count.
What if I’m not sure it met the standard?
Then treat it as a not yet, or ask the guide to watch it at school. When in doubt, leave it out.
Who else can sign a log or witness note?
A parent or guardian signs. Some challenges also need confirmation from other people, like crewmates or the person your child helped, and the sentence says so when they do.
We can’t do the home part. What now?
Many home challenges can also be shown at school. For habits that only happen at home, ask your child’s guide to suggest a school option or a different challenge.
Who is my child’s Field Guide?
The guide who meets with your child for weekly coaching. If you’re not sure of their email address, ask at drop-off or pick-up.